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Tuesday, 30 April 2013

FROM BOMBAY TO BANGALORE by Sudha Murty














Sudha Murty

It was the beginning of summer. I was boarding Udyan Express at Gulbarga railway station. My destination was Bangalore. As I boarded the train, I saw that the second-class reserved compartment was jam-packed with people. I sat down and was pushed to the corner of the berth. Though it was meant for three people, there were already six of us sitting on it...

The ticket collector came in and started checking people's tickets and reservations...Suddenly, he looked in my direction and asked, "What about your ticket?" "I have already shown my ticket to you," I said.


"Not you, madam, the girl hiding below your berth. Hey, come out, where is your ticket?" I realized that someone was sitting below my berth. When the collector yelled at her, the girl came out of hiding.


She was thin, dark, scared, and looked like she had been crying profusely. She must have been about thirteen or fourteen years old. She had uncombed hair and was dressed in a torn skirt and blouse. She was trembling and folded both her hands. The collector started forcibly pulling her out of the compartment. Suddenly, I had a strange feeling. I stood up and called out to the collector. "Sir, I will pay for her ticket," I said.


Then he looked at me and said, "Madam, if you give her ten rupees, she will be much happier with that than with the ticket."


I did not listen to him. I told the collector to give me a ticket to the last destination, Bangalore, so that the girl could get down wherever she wanted.


Slowly, she started talking. She told me that her name was Chitra. She lived in a village near Bidar. Her father was a coolie and she had lost her mother at birth. Her father had remarried and had two sons with her stepmother. But a few months ago, her father had died. Her stepmother started beating her often and did not give her food. She was tired of that life. She did not have anybody to support her so she left home in search of something better.


By this time the train had reached Bangalore. I said goodbye to Chitra and got down from the train. My driver came and picked up my bags. I felt someone watching me. When I turned back, Chitra was standing there and looking at me with sad eyes. But there was nothing more that I could do. I had paid her ticket out of compassion but I had never thought that she would be my responsibility...!


I told her to get into my car. My driver looked at the girl curiously. I told him to take us to my friend Ram's place. Ram ran separate shelter homes for boys and girls. We at the Infosys Foundation supported him financially. I thought Chitra could stay there for sometime and we could talk about her future after I came back from my tours.


I was not sure if Chitra would even be there.But to my surprise, I saw Chitra looking even happier than before. Ram suggested that Chitra could go to a high school nearby. I immediately agreed and said that I would sponsor her expenses if she continued to study. I left the shelter knowing that Chitra had found a home and a new direction in life.


I got busier and my visits to the shelter reduced to once a year. But I always enquired about Chitra's well-being over the phone. I knew that she was studying well and that her progress was good. I offered to sponsor her college studies if she wanted to continue studying. But she said, "No Akka. I have talked to my friends and made up my mind. I would like to do my diploma in computer science so that I can immediately get a job after three years." She wanted to become financially independent as soon as possible. Chitra obtained her diploma with flying colours. She also got a job in a software company as an assistant testing engineer. When she got her first salary, she came to my office with a sari and a box of sweets.


One day when I was in Delhi, I got a call from Chitra. She was very happy. "Akka my company is sending me to USA. I wanted to meet you and take your blessings but you are not here in Bangalore."


Years passed. Occasionally, I received an email from Chitra. She was doing very well in her career. She was posted across several cities in USA and was enjoying life. I silently prayed that she should always be happy wherever she was.


Years later, I was invited to deliver a lecture in San Francisco for Kannada Koota, an organization where families who speak Kannada meet and organize events. The lecture was in the convention hall of a hotel and I decided to stay at the same hotel. After the lecture, I was planning to leave for the airport. When I went to the reception counter to pay the bill, the receptionist said, "Ma'am you don't need to pay us anything. The lady over there has already settled your bill. She must know you pretty well." I turned around and found Chitra there.


She was standing with a young white man and wore a beautiful sari. She was looking very pretty with short hair. Her dark eyes were beaming with happiness and pride. As soon as she saw me, she gave me a brilliant smile, hugged me and touched my feet. I was overwhelmed with joy and did not know what to say. I was very happy to see the way things had turned out for Chitra. But I came back to my original question. "Chitra, why did you pay my hotel bill. That is not right." Suddenly, sobbing, she hugged me and said, "Because you paid for my ticket from Bombay to Bangalore!"


(Excerpted with permission from Penguin Books India from Sudha Murty's 'The Day I stopped Drinking Milk: Life Stories From Here And There')


Sudha Murty, Chairperson, Infoysy Foundation, and Author, is known for her ability to glean interesting stories from the lives of ordinary people and weave there narratives into a unique blend of anecdote and fable.





Saturday, 27 April 2013

LIFE IS AN OPPORTUNITY


Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is precious, take care of it.
Life is life, fight for it.
 ...author unknown

But it is not always possible to play the game of life without errors, oversights and disappointments. Can we truly meet every challenge, realize every dream, complete every duty, and overcome every sorrow?

So when we do not benefit from every opportunity that life provides us with, never wallow in regrets. Take heart from the advice given by Doe Zantamata:
"Don't be so tough on yourself about past mistakes, about missed opportunities, about trusting the advice of others over your own intuition. 

"Make amends where you can, forgive yourself for not knowing better before you knew better, and realize that the lessons were needed and had to be learned firsthand.

"Be tougher on yourself with following through with your ideas, your plans, dreams and goals, and stay committed to making the changes you want to make to better yourself, your life, and your future."

What I have taken away from this is:
--not to regret missed opportunities, of which I have many,
--to trust my intuition more readily,
--to be tough on seeing my ideas and dreams move forward.

What has made an impact on you? 




Tuesday, 23 April 2013

SELF-TRANSFORMATION



If you want to awaken
all of humanity,
then awaken
all of yourself.

If you want to eliminate
the suffering in the world,
then eliminate all that is dark
and negative in yourself.

Truly, the greatest gift
you have to give
is that of your own
self-transformation.

...Lao Tzu.


Right now, like most of us, your concern may not be to awaken the whole of humanity or to eliminate the suffering of the world. Rather, you may be struggling to bring about some harmony in your home,  some co-operation with colleagues  at your workplace, and some peace in your heart. Whatever the size of the arena in which you wish to operate, Lao Tzu's message remains valid...self-transformation is the way!

Things around us don't change; we change. And like a miracle, when we change, things around us change. 

Pick a small situation to test out this premise. Maybe a surly store attendant...instead of reacting with an equally surly attitude, just smile and say something nice, and watch that person change into a pleasant, helpful attendant. Experiment a few more times in different situations. When you begin to experience this truth, try it out on more personal, and therefore more challenging situations.

At first you will probably not see the improvements you were hoping for, but keep at it. I'm not saying it is going to be easy, but it will be worthwhile. You will keep slipping up because personal relationships and situations get us all worked up, hurt and angry. As you patiently practice changing your attitudes, reactions, words and behaviour, you will in time, get there. And you will have brought about the changes you were seeking.

The speed with which you get there depends on how committed you are to your own self-transformation.   




Saturday, 20 April 2013

A PRAYER



May my heart be gentle,
my mind still and open,
my spirit unshackled,
my awareness keen,
my conscience clear,
my nature giving.

May I be a healing energy,
may I be of benefit to all,
may my life enrich others,
may I know what matters,
and live in harmony with Nature.

...Abby Willowroot.

Monday, 15 April 2013

MASTER OF YOUR FATE



A wise woman who was travelling in the mountains found a precious stone and tucked it away in her cloth bag.

As she continued on her way she met a man who asked her for something to eat as he was very hungry. The woman opened her bag to share with the man the little food that she had.


When she opened her bag the man saw the precious stone and asked if he could have it. Without even a moment's hesitation she gave it to him. The man shared her food and left, clutching the precious stone and thrilled at his good fortune. He knew that this stone could be sold for a sum of money that would take care of his needs his entire life.


However, the following day he came back looking for the wise woman. When he met up with her, he said, "I have come to return this very valuable precious stone to you, and instead I would like you to give me something even more precious."


"I have nothing else to give to you," replied the woman.


"Yes you do have something far more valuable. You have within you that which enabled you to give the precious stone away, and that is what I want."