Monday, 7 April 2014

The 'Secret Of Life'...where can you find it?

Where can you find the secret of life? Where can you find peace, joy, health and happiness? 

All of us do the things we do because we believe they will make us happy. We are constantly searching for happiness through the people we spend time with, the music we listen to, the foods we eat, the places we travel to, the things we buy, and so on. 

The musk deer lives in forested regions of high mountain ranges like the Himalayan mountains. The adult male is highly prized for it's musk gland which secretes a waxy substance which is greatly sought after by the perfume industry. Yet the deer itself is not aware of where this attractive fragrance comes from, and searches for it all around.

We are often like the musk deer searching for the secrets to happiness and well-being, and not sure where to look for it. 

This little poem below, expresses our search very effectively:

As the Lord God was creating the world
He called upon His Archangels.
The Lord asked His Archangels to help Him
decide where to put the Secret Of Life.

"Bury it in the ground," one angel replied.
"Put it at the bottom of the sea," said another.
"Hide it in the mountains," another suggested.

The Lord replied, "If I do any of those,
only a few will find the Secret Of Life.
The Secret Of Life must be accessible to EVERYONE."

One angel replied, "Why not put it 
in each man's heart?
Nobody will think to look there."
"Yes," said the Lord, "Within each man's heart."

And so it was---
The Secret Of Life lies within all of us. 

Friday, 4 April 2014

Are You Beautiful?

Are you beautiful? What do you think?

Most of us fall short of the parameters of beauty as shown in the media. Not tall enough, not thin enough, not clear-skinned enough, hair not rich and gleaming enough, smile not aesthetic enough, waist not pinched-in enough, legs not long enough, lips not sultry enough, nose not aristocratic enough...the list is endless.

And in countries like mine where people are dusky or dark-skinned, nothing matters more than being light-skinned! Having fair skin makes up for every other disadvantage. Sales of "fairness creams" is brisk and unimaginably high.

So do all of these things make you beautiful? Well, I guess they do. But they also create a beauty which is just skin-deep. Audrey Hepburn famously said that to have beautiful lips you must always speak well of others, and to have beautiful eyes, you must see the good in people, and that true beauty is reflected in the soul.

Your opinion of yourself is what matters the most. If you think that you are beautiful, then you are! And it's not difficult to appear beautiful to others. You just need to be friendly, helpful and kind. Think and speak well of those you interact with. Avoid gossip, rudeness, hurtful remarks and inconsiderate behaviour. Above all, choose to be happy, and to spread cheer wherever you go. And Smile.

Listen to this truly inspiring speech made by Lupita Nyong'o, Oscar Winner, about how she learnt to believe that she was beautiful.

Tuesday, 18 March 2014

The Time Between Birth and Death

How do we spend the time between birth and death? 
Each of us has an allotted time here on earth. How do we spend this time between birth and death? Can we truly say that we have got better and better with every passing year? Have we in some way helped another person get better? Have we used some part of our talents to work for the society we live in? 

A poem that got me titled Dash. Are we so caught up in ourselves and our issues, that we have no time for others in our schedule? How do we behave towards people? Are we mindful about Being Human?

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end.

He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke of the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we own,
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love,
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard;
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be re-arranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more,
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read
With your life's actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?

                                                   by Linda Ellis.

Friday, 7 March 2014

International Women's Day

Tomorrow, March 8, is International Women's Day. It is celebrated all across the world, and is also a holiday in several countries. The very first Women's Day was observed in the United States in 1909. A second conference of working women was held in Copenhagen in 1910 when Clara Zetkin from Germany suggested an International Women's Day to draw attention to women's rights to vote, to work, to hold public office, and to end all forms of discrimination.

We have come a long, long way since then. Today we vote, work, hold public office, and we head corporations and governments. Yet in so many different ways, we are still discriminated the outside world, and worse still, within our own homes.

Most of us may not be in a position to influence gender equality in salaries or opportunities at the work place, but in our personal lives and relationships, we have complete control. Do not be fooled by others into believing that you are not your own person. 

You have tremendous influence over your thoughts, your words, your emotions, and your actions. You choose whether or not to respect and love yourself. You decide whether to let other people control and manipulate you, or whether you stand up for yourself and your beliefs. Do not be afraid to say what you think and believe.

So this Women's Day, make a commitment... 
to respect yourself so that others will respect you too,
to stand up for yourself without arguments and fights,
to seek peace and radiate love everywhere you go,
to cling to positive thoughts and supportive emotions.

Do whatever is needed to improve yourself...
join a yoga class or go to the gym or walk for an hour each day, drink plenty of water, eat healthy, start your day with prayer and meditation, learn a new skill or upgrade your current skills, read inspiring and motivating material, and affirm, "I am Strong, I am Healthy, I am Happy."  

Here is a beautiful poem by Maya Angelou which, I hope, will give you the strength to be the woman you deserve to be.  


enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
a youth she's content to leave behind....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...
a feeling of control over her destiny...
how to fall in love without losing herself..
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship....
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...

where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...

What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...

Maya Angelou

Tuesday, 25 February 2014

The Tapping World Summit

The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner has been described as a revolutionary system for stress-free living. This technique of meridian tapping combines ancient methods of acupressure along with modern psychology to bring you astounding results and improvements in all areas of your life.

Relief from physical pain, freedom from fear, removal of all kinds of limiting beliefs, especially in the financial area, are all possible through the tapping technique.

The Tapping World Summit has just begun. It is a free online programme, and you must take advantage of all that is taught and discussed. I hope it is of benefit to those of you who need it.

Go to the link below to listen to Nick Ortner speak to Dr. Wayne Dyer who talks about his experience with tapping.