Monday, 27 October 2014

Open Hearts


"The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes."...so said Pema Chodron, an ordained buddhist nun.

Look at the picture above, and we see how big our hearts were as little children, engulfing the entire body. In fact we were only heart+head. As as we grew older, the head and the thoughts in it, took on more prominence. The heart began shrinking in correspondence. We gave more importance than was needed to fears, failures, drop in confidence, opinions of others, and similar negative thoughts. 

Realise that there are no failures in life...only experiences that we have to learn from. Realise that other people also have the same fears we have. Each of us is created special, and filled with our own brand of talents and abilities. Let us practise being happy with the way we are, and be brave enough to open our hearts to others.

Monday, 13 October 2014

Break Bad Habits Before They Break You


Break your bad habits
Sep 21, 2014 05:33 PM , By Rani Jeyaraj | 0 comments 
It is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits.


It is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits.
Don't label yourself based on your negative behaviour, but try to let go of it
So you slept in again and didn’t make it to the morning yoga class. You tell yourself it is okay and decide to go for the evening class. Then your colleagues make a dinner plan and you skip the evening class. So you tell yourself, “I will be regular from tomorrow.” But dinner ends late and once again you find yourself hitting that snooze button. But you wake up feeling terribly guilty and tell yourself that you will go for the evening class and the cycle begins all over again.

Author of this article, Rani Jeyaraj, is my daughter's friend, a serious yoga practitioner, and a former Miss India. Read her full article here.




Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Dealing With Competitive People

Haven't we all met them...the competitive ones? Nothing wrong with being competitive. In fact, it is one of the qualities that propels people forward, and helps them succeed. But when competitiveness in those you work with or live with, becomes overwhelming, and encroaches upon your space, then you need to know how to deal with it and restore your peace of mind.  

Here is an informative article by clinical psychologist, Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

How to Keep Your Cool with Competitive People

People skills to help you stand your ground
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Race to the Top
Life isn't only about winning
We have all had to deal with a competitive person at some time. Whether it's the neighbor whose holiday decorations always have to be more extravagant or the coworker who grabs the credit for every project, competitive people can provoke feelings of irritation, anxiety, or inadequacy. You may end up questioning yourself or feeling that you didn't measure up to their level of wealth, talent or accomplishment. Or you may feel like you have to compete with them and end up spending extra time or money unnecessarily Why are some people competitive and what's the best way to handle them?

                                                Read the full article here.

Sunday, 28 September 2014

Grace Of God


Footprints In The Sand

...by Mary Stevenson.

One night I had a dream.
I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord...

Across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand;
one belonging to me, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along the path of my life
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very saddest and lowest times in my life.

This really bothered me,
and I questioned the Lord about it:
"Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed 
that during the most troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I do not know why,
when I needed you most, you would leave me."

The Lord replied,
"My precious child, 
I love you and would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."

I recall writing this same piece in an earlier post, but it is so heartwarming, and so re-assuring to know that we are taken care of, that I felt compelled to write it again.

Pray for the grace of God to be with you at all times, and then believe that it is. Sometimes God takes us through difficult and trying circumstances to burn away all that is holding us back from reaching the place where He wants us to be. Trusting Him includes trusting in His timing. Be patient, and know that He is present in all your situations.


                                    

Thursday, 4 September 2014

Teachers


If you can read this, thank a Teacher.
Today, 5 September, India celebrates 'Teacher's Day.'  Students all over the country honour their teachers, felicitate them, and use this opportunity to express their love and gratitude. 

It got me thinking about...well, who is a teacher?

We've got accustomed to tagging the label of Teacher onto someone who comes into a classroom setting and instructs students in academic subjects. A true definition of teacher is anyone who has touched our lives and inspired us to improve on what we were. 

There is no age consideration here. My children have been among my best teachers, guiding me in new technological advancements, cheering me in all my endeavours, and showing me the path to joyful living.

Even our experiences, both good and challenging ones, are teachers that shine a light on what we need to learn, making us stronger mentally and spiritually. People who are difficult to deal with, teach us tolerance and patience, as well as creative ways of handling them.

Books are wonderful teachers, throwing open whole new worlds for us to explore, taking us to places we have wanted to go to but never did. The internet has worked its way into this list too!

Very apt indeed are these words I read somewhere: Everyone is my teacher...some I seek...some I subconsciously attract...often I learn simply by observing others...some may be completely unaware that I'm learning from them...yet I bow deeply in gratitude.