Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Dealing With Competitive People

Haven't we all met them...the competitive ones? Nothing wrong with being competitive. In fact, it is one of the qualities that propels people forward, and helps them succeed. But when competitiveness in those you work with or live with, becomes overwhelming, and encroaches upon your space, then you need to know how to deal with it and restore your peace of mind.  

Here is an informative article by clinical psychologist, Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

How to Keep Your Cool with Competitive People

People skills to help you stand your ground
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Race to the Top
Life isn't only about winning
We have all had to deal with a competitive person at some time. Whether it's the neighbor whose holiday decorations always have to be more extravagant or the coworker who grabs the credit for every project, competitive people can provoke feelings of irritation, anxiety, or inadequacy. You may end up questioning yourself or feeling that you didn't measure up to their level of wealth, talent or accomplishment. Or you may feel like you have to compete with them and end up spending extra time or money unnecessarily Why are some people competitive and what's the best way to handle them?

                                                Read the full article here.

Sunday, 28 September 2014

Grace Of God


Footprints In The Sand

...by Mary Stevenson.

One night I had a dream.
I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord...

Across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand;
one belonging to me, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along the path of my life
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very saddest and lowest times in my life.

This really bothered me,
and I questioned the Lord about it:
"Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed 
that during the most troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I do not know why,
when I needed you most, you would leave me."

The Lord replied,
"My precious child, 
I love you and would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."

Pray for the grace of God to be with you at all times, and then believe that it is. Sometimes God takes us through difficult and trying circumstances to burn away all that is holding us back from reaching the place where He wants us to be. Trusting Him includes trusting in His timing. Be patient, and know that He is present in all your situations.


                                    

Thursday, 4 September 2014

Teachers


If you can read this, thank a Teacher.
Today, 5 September, India celebrates 'Teacher's Day.'  Students all over the country honour their teachers, felicitate them, and use this opportunity to express their love and gratitude. 

It got me thinking about...well, who is a teacher?

We've got accustomed to tagging the label of Teacher onto someone who comes into a classroom setting and instructs students in academic subjects. A true definition of teacher is anyone who has touched our lives and inspired us to improve on what we were. 

There is no age consideration here. My children have been among my best teachers, guiding me in new technological advancements, cheering me in all my endeavours, and showing me the path to joyful living.

Even our experiences, both good and challenging ones, are teachers that shine a light on what we need to learn, making us stronger mentally and spiritually. People who are difficult to deal with, teach us tolerance and patience, as well as creative ways of handling them.

Books are wonderful teachers, throwing open whole new worlds for us to explore, taking us to places we have wanted to go to but never did. The internet has worked its way into this list too!

Very apt indeed are these words I read somewhere: Everyone is my teacher...some I seek...some I subconsciously attract...often I learn simply by observing others...some may be completely unaware that I'm learning from them...yet I bow deeply in gratitude.

Monday, 1 September 2014

Eating Off A Banana Leaf With Your Fingers


In the south of India, meals were traditionally eaten on banana leaves, while sitting cross-legged on the floor. Even today, this is how meals are served at weddings and other celebrations.

It is believed that this practice has several benefits. Ayurveda gives a great deal of importance to banana leaves, and uses it in many of their treatments. When hot rice is placed on the leaf, it absorbs the chlorophyll from the leaf. Sitting cross-legged on the floor while eating helps in digestion, and ensures that one doesn't eat too much.

Here is an extract from .com/culturebuy

Ever wondered why people eat with their hands in Kerala. Eating food with your hands feeds not only the body but also the mind and the spirit. That is the Vedic wisdom behind Kerala's famous Banana Leaf Experience whose pleasure can only be appreciated fully, it is said, if one eats with hands and not fork and spoon.

Our hands and feet are said to be the conduits of the five elements. The Ayurvedic texts teach that each finger is an extension of one of the five elements. The thumb is agni (fire) -- you might have seen children sucking their thumb, this is nature's way of aiding the digestion at an age when they are unable to chew; the forefinger is vayu (air), the middle finger is akash (ether -- the tiny intercellular spaces in the human body), the ring finger is prithvi (earth) and the little finger is jal (water).



Monday, 25 August 2014

Meditation Or Tango Dancing







Do you sit in meditation each day? If not, then try dancing the tango. According to this report, scientists have found that tango dancing leads to a calm disposition, reducing anxiety and stress.

Here is an extract from the report:
For years, cultures around the world have been using meditation to calm the brain and enter states that are not only psychologically beneficial, but also physically beneficial.
As scientists learn more about our brains and how they operate, it has become apparent that Tango dancing, of all activities, can lead to the same mental states experienced by people who meditate on a regular basis. Additionally, the more skilled the Tango dancer, the more likely they are to enter this state at deeper levels.
One experiment, presented by the U.S. National Library of Medicine, looked at whether Argentine tango is as effective as mindfulness meditation in reducing symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression.
Mindfulness meditation refers to meditation wherein one is consciously aware that one is meditating, as opposed to the various types of meditation that involve entering a trance or a sleep-like sleep-like state.