Friday, 21 November 2014

The Dalai Lama's Rules For Living

18 Rules for life as taught by the Dalai Lama

1.  Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2.  When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

3.  Follow the three Rs:
  • Respect for self
  • Respect for others
  • Responsibility for all your actions

4.  Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a tremendous stroke of luck.

5.  Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6.  Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

7.  When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8.  Spend some time alone everyday.

9.  Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and look back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you have never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Monday, 27 October 2014

Open Hearts

"The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes." said Pema Chodron, an ordained buddhist nun.

Look at the picture above, and we see how big our hearts were as little children, engulfing the entire body. In fact we were only heart+head. As as we grew older, the head and the thoughts in it, took on more prominence. The heart began shrinking in correspondence. We gave more importance than was needed to fears, failures, drop in confidence, opinions of others, and similar negative thoughts. 

Realise that there are no failures in life...only experiences that we have to learn from. Realise that other people also have the same fears we have. Each of us is created special, and filled with our own brand of talents and abilities. Let us practise being happy with the way we are, and be brave enough to open our hearts to others.

Monday, 13 October 2014

Break Bad Habits Before They Break You

Break your bad habits
Sep 21, 2014 05:33 PM , By Rani Jeyaraj | 0 comments 
It is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits.

It is better to let go of negative habits or better still transform them into positive habits.
Don't label yourself based on your negative behaviour, but try to let go of it
So you slept in again and didn’t make it to the morning yoga class. You tell yourself it is okay and decide to go for the evening class. Then your colleagues make a dinner plan and you skip the evening class. So you tell yourself, “I will be regular from tomorrow.” But dinner ends late and once again you find yourself hitting that snooze button. But you wake up feeling terribly guilty and tell yourself that you will go for the evening class and the cycle begins all over again.

Author of this article, Rani Jeyaraj, is my daughter's friend, a serious yoga practitioner, and a former Miss India. Read her full article here.

Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Dealing With Competitive People

Haven't we all met them...the competitive ones? Nothing wrong with being competitive. In fact, it is one of the qualities that propels people forward, and helps them succeed. But when competitiveness in those you work with or live with, becomes overwhelming, and encroaches upon your space, then you need to know how to deal with it and restore your peace of mind.  

Here is an informative article by clinical psychologist, Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

How to Keep Your Cool with Competitive People

People skills to help you stand your ground

Race to the Top
Life isn't only about winning
We have all had to deal with a competitive person at some time. Whether it's the neighbor whose holiday decorations always have to be more extravagant or the coworker who grabs the credit for every project, competitive people can provoke feelings of irritation, anxiety, or inadequacy. You may end up questioning yourself or feeling that you didn't measure up to their level of wealth, talent or accomplishment. Or you may feel like you have to compete with them and end up spending extra time or money unnecessarily Why are some people competitive and what's the best way to handle them?

                                                Read the full article here.

Sunday, 28 September 2014

Grace Of God

Footprints In The Sand Mary Stevenson.

One night I had a dream.
I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord...

Across the sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand;
one belonging to me, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that many times along the path of my life
there was only one set of footprints.
I also noticed that it happened at the very saddest and lowest times in my life.

This really bothered me,
and I questioned the Lord about it:
"Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed 
that during the most troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I do not know why,
when I needed you most, you would leave me."

The Lord replied,
"My precious child, 
I love you and would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."

I recall writing this same piece in an earlier post, but it is so heartwarming, and so re-assuring to know that we are taken care of, that I felt compelled to write it again.

Pray for the grace of God to be with you at all times, and then believe that it is. Sometimes God takes us through difficult and trying circumstances to burn away all that is holding us back from reaching the place where He wants us to be. Trusting Him includes trusting in His timing. Be patient, and know that He is present in all your situations.